Should You Change How You Feel, What You Do, or How You See Things?

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Usually, I’ll zoom in on a particular topic, but this week I am going to zoom way out. It’s important to see the details in context of the big picture. Most progress is made in the daily steps we take, but understanding why we should prefer one approach over another is useful.1

When reading personal development content, there are three main things you can hope to change in order to improve your life.

  1. How You Feel (Motivation)
  2. What You Do (Strategy)
  3. How You See Things (Perspective)

Which one is most effective, and why?Read More

Deep Existence

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As many of you may know, this blog started out as “Deep Existence.” About five years after I founded Deep Existence, I realized how much I had grown and changed from the person I was back then. “Deep Existence” no longer resonates with my purpose to the same level it once did, so I have decided to change to a domain name that can grow with me. My own name. Even if I somehow become a full time scuba instructor, I can still use this site! I’m constantly growing and changing, so this makes the most sense. I also wanted a digital home broad enough to show people all of the projects I’m passionate about, and you can see them all in the “projects” section of the main menu.

While it’s a big change in some ways, not very much will change. I will still write the same type of content, I will keep writing quality books, and and I will continue to write for the benefit of others. Okay, now I’m going to pretend that Deep Existence is a conscious entity. It’s going to be a bit sentimental and possibly “cute,” but most of all, it’ll be really weird when you think about me talking to a website like this.Read More

12 Ways To Make Sure You Finish What You Start, Without Exception

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Photo by Jared Erondu

Stefano Ganddini gives us a truckload of brilliant, actionable advice in this guest post. His advice is sound and much of it mirrors what I wrote about in How to Be an Imperfectionist. This is a superb read.

Finishing is hard.

It’s one thing to be working on a project with strict deadlines like you have in school, work, and other similar types of environments that come with external pressures and consequences if you don’t meet your deadlines.

But when you’re working on a personal project and no one is forcing you to finish what you start, it’s easy to let it fall through the cracks. Life will go on, you’ll still have your job, and no one will think of you any differently. No one will know.

That is, no one except you. You alone will know and you alone will start to think of yourself differently. You’ll start to think that maybe you’re just not capable of finishing. Maybe you just don’t have enough self-discipline. Maybe some people are born with the special gift of finishing, and you’re just not one of them.

But I don’t buy it. I think you’re more than capable of finishing what you start. I think everyone is. I think the problem is just that most people aren’t using the right strategies. Read More

My Life-Changing Experience In A Sensory Deprivation Tank (My Review After Six Floats in Eight Days)

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If you need me, I’ll be in here.

Several years ago, I developed severe anxiety that lasted a full year. It was shocking, as I had never been an anxious person before that. I’ve since recovered, but I still hadn’t completely regained my prior calm… until now! 

I’m going to be talking about anxiety and sensory deprivation tanks, but even if you don’t struggle with anxiety or wish to float in an alien pod, I think you’ll find the broader concept applicable to other areas of life.

Enter: Sensory Deprivation Tanks

I talked to subscribers about this last week, but here’s a brief summary of how these work: A sensory deprivation tank is an 8-foot long “pod” filled with water that’s super saturated with hundreds of pounds of epsom salts.Read More

Why You Should Look Forward to Your Daily Commute

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In this guest post, Kyla Matthews tells us a few reasons why a commute doesn’t have to be so bad. I work at home, but reading this almost made me wish I commuted to work. Almost. Still, that says a lot coming from me. If you commute, this is a must read.

“Plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn’t stop to enjoy it.”

William Feather

The average commute to work in the U.S. takes just over 26 minutes, according to the Washington Post. Well, but that’s the average. Many Americans are stuck in much longer commutes — especially if they live in one of the top nine worst cities for commuting.

What are these top nine? Drum roll (or horn honk), please.Read More