How to Create Unbreakable Rules and Win Every Day

Would you turn on the faucet? Just curious.

In Arizona, you can’t let your donkey sleep in a bathtub. It’s illegal. And yet, donkeys are still doing it!

It is illegal to curse within Baltimore’s city limits. 

A rule is “a prescribed guide for conduct or action.” The above examples are laws (formal rules) that actually exist, but don’t hold any real weight. Aside from their ridiculous nature, another key reason why they don’t hold weight is because they’re old and stale.Read More

The Psychology of Being Reliable

I was late a couple of times recently, and I didn’t like it.

Being reliable is one of the most valued traits in a person. Put simply, being reliable means that if you say you will do something, you will do it. People who can be trusted to follow through in the little things are the people we trust with the bigger things.

When you tell someone that you’ll be somewhere at a specific time, they should know that you’ll be there by that time and not a second later. For relaxed personalities like mine, it’s tempting to brush off timeliness as relatively unimportant. What’s a few minutes or even a half hour? It’s not a big deal.

Or is it?

We don’t merely schedule things with others, we plan to do things ourselves. Reliability is the difference between living how you want to live and being dominated by your whims and bad habits. When you plan to do something, can we consider it done or will we have to wait and see if you’re in the right mood or motivated enough to do it?

The Rippling Impact of Unreliability

Unreliability hits hardest in the mind, away from related events. If you are unreliable to yourself or others, you will know it. You will feel it. It’s the feeling that you don’t really have any control over your behavior. If you can’t be on time to a simple Wednesday appointment, how are you ever going to get in shape, direct movies, or be a great parent, friend, or spouse?Read More

Don’t Be Envious: The Cost Is Too High

Cat-tion: Why did owner pet that greasy dog when I’m obviously cuter? Am I too clean? Do I smell too good? *hiss* I deserve a chin scratch.

Envy, often confused with jealousy, is when you want something that someone else has. 

Jealousy is when you feel threatened that someone else is going to take away something you already have.

“Envy was characterized by feelings of inferiority, longing, resentment, and disapproval of the emotion. Jealousy was characterized by fear of loss, distrust, anxiety, and anger.” (source)

Is Envy Related to Shame?

In Mini Habits for Weight Loss, I attacked shame as aggressively as a rabid raccoon attacks your garbage.Read More

How to Overcome Burnout: Balance Focus and Variety

Me and my cousin, Actress Laura Avnaim, in our upcoming Mini Habits for Weight Loss video course! (Spring 2018)

Real work requires deep focus.

But variety keeps us interested.

I’m the type of guy to badger people about the importance of focusing, but lately, I’ve realized the importance of variety. They say variety is the spice of life, but I’m thinking it’s the spice of everything.

How I Got Burnt Out (and How I Came Back)

See how happy I look in the picture at the top of this article? Here’s another one. Does that guy look like he’s burnt out?Read More

Why You Should Organize Your Life With Lists

Under my “irrelevant blog post images” list, I found “yawning cat.” Lists are amazing!

I’m not impressed when someone can memorize the sequencing of pi to 100,000 places. Do you know why?

Because a (large) piece of paper accomplishes the same thing. A computer can calculate and show that information instantly and on demand. 

You’re telling me that your brain has all the power of the spiral notebook I bought at the dollar store. (Before you think that’s a devastating insult, consider that notebooks are extremely underrated! It’s merely a standard insult.)Read More