How Mini Habits Can Make Your Dreams Come True

A mini habit is a very small behavior that you force yourself do every day.

My second book, How to Be an Imperfectionist, discusses the soul of the Mini Habits ideology—accept imperfect progress in any amount and prioritize forward movement. I was shocked when a reader said this in a review,

“If you want to be mediocre and be happy about it, get this book.”

Mediocre? Huh? Something got lost in translation. Mediocrity is exactly what my books fight against! How did this misunderstanding happen?

How Real Life Kills Dreams

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3 Perspectives That Make for a Good Life

I believe in two things: strategies and perspectives. This article is about the latter.

How is it that you can place two people in similar circumstances, and one is miserable as the other is happy? Perspective.

These three foundational perspectives are easy to mix up, so pay close attention to the nuances between them. Together, these will create a healthy appetite for growth and lasting satisfaction in the journey. That’s a good life!

 

1. Accept where you are now (not where you hope to be). Greatness always begins from where you are, even if it’s dark.

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The Snowball Effect Rules the World

When David Loffert was 31, his life trajectory was impressive.

“I had published/presented 54 medical papers, published 6 peer reviewed medical papers, was contributing author on one book, owned and operated my own consulting company in respiratory medicine, developed a patent for respiratory devices, and was progressing successfully in my Ph.D.”

~ David Loffert

That year, David had a bout with migraine headaches and went to see a doctor about it. Over the next 9-10 years of his life, things went horribly wrong. Loffert writes,

“Shunned from my profession, disenchanted from my family and friends, and homeless, I fell into a deep depression. It was at this time that I wrote a suicide note and attempted to commit suicide. Over the next nine years I attempted suicide one more time, had 35 toxic overdoses, and 45 seizures. All of which brought me close to death each time.” (source)

What went wrong?

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Don’t Use Rewards for Motivation

Child studies. The pairing of those two words sounds sinister at best, but most children studies are harmless to the kiddos and enlightening for us adultos.

I’ve said it before: kids are the purest humans on the planet. They haven’t yet been fully conditioned into robo-dults. For science, this is very valuable as it decreases a number of influence-related variables and thus, increases the odds that we’ll see something about human nature instead of societal conditioning. 

Traditional Habit Formation Is Terrible

Traditional habit formation tells us that to create a new habit, we must sandwich our desired behavior between a cue (to trigger the behavior) and a reward (to reinforce the behavior). With my Mini Habits strategy, cues are optional and I have mostly advised that people do not set up planned rewards for two reasons: [Continue Reading…]

One Thought That Can Conquer Procrastination

Robert Herjavec is a multi-millionaire businessman who is best known for his starring role on the TV show Shark Tank. 

If you don’t know already, Shark Tank has entrepreneurs pitch their businesses to five wealthy investors (the sharks). Robert is my favorite “shark” on the show.

On multiple episodes, I noticed that Robert mentioned his marriage of 20 years. The frequent mentions gave me the impression that he was overjoyed about his marriage and family. But a few years ago, Robert and his wife separated and his kids stopped talking to him.

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