Have You Met Mr. Dream Killer?

Mr. Dream Killer

Here is Mr. Dream Killer! This poor guy will be walking in the mall and some lady will scream, “Aaaahhh! Get this man away from my dreams! Police! Save yourselves!”

Mr. Dream Killer looks like a reasonably nice guy. He opens the door for you and covers his cough. He donates to charity and looks good in argyle sweaters. He paints.

But when he lures you into his mind trap, he says the devastating phrase that covertly destroys your greatest life hopes…

“The timing isn’t right.”

PAUSE!

I scanned your thoughts as you two agreed “the timing isn’t right.” Sue me later for thought theft, but I found three interesting ones.

1. “The ‘right time’ will come and it will look different than the current environment.”

This is not an unreasonable view, but it is a flawed one. There could come a better time, yes, but it is unknown if that time will ever come! A delay in dream pursuit communicates “I can’t do this right now.” That’s a scary thought, because as you age, your body and brain wear down and become less effective.

In some cases you truly can’t move forward, but most of the time you’re justifying cowardice.

Success guru Brian Tracy continued with the daily operations of his company as he underwent chemotherapy and radiation treatment for cancer – both of which are devastating to the human body. He knew he could find a way to continue, and he did. Sorry, but I think Brian just invalidated your current excuse.

Excuse removed. Next.

2. “My dream’s difficulty intimidates me. I’ll do something easier for now.”

Difficulty alters human decisions every day; some people run from it, others towards it. We all know that person who will turn down parking spots, and drive for 30 minutes until they find one practically inside the store. Is it you?

Easy feels nice, so the decision is always rewarded. But easy is almost never better. Difficulty is directly responsible for growth, while easy living is to blame for stagnation. Your intuition is likely nodding its proverbial head right now.

You know weightlifting builds muscle and inactivity causes atrophy. You know uncomfortably experiencing other cultures broadens the mind, while staying home narrows it. You know that it feels better to conquer a mountain than to step on an ant (unless the ant bit you, and you want REVENGE).

When I was racing back and forth on the basketball court today for exercise, I realized how much easier it was to shoot-walk to the ball-shoot like everyone around me. It would be even more comfortable than that to stay at home, stuff myself with ice cream…hmm…hold on a sec…. *stuffs self with ice cream*…ok, I admit that was worth it. But because I worked out, I will feel better today and tomorrow and I deserve ice cream.

Why would you wait until it is easier, or worse, trick yourself into wanting something less than what you really want?

The hard path is better. Next.

3. “I need money first. I can’t do that. I’m not prepared.”

Oh come on.

Learn what you need to learn, prepare what needs preparing, and obtain or find a way around whatever it is you need. I know everyone is thinking, “what about money?” I’m about to launch a business that requires almost no money to start (+1 internet fan). There’s another “dream” business I want to start that would require *significant* funds, but who’s to say that this business now isn’t the first step towards that other business? That’s how I see it!

When you catch yourself thinking, “I need this first, I want that first,” think about when you first beat Vega in Street Fighter II Turbo and pumped your fist. Just me? Well, the point remains that you can see challenges as being fun or annoying/impossible. Choose fun.

And by the way, dreams aren’t meant to be easy. You have to fight for them like they’re a dear friend dangling off the edge of a cliff.

dreamsguise

“I’m going for it. Ssssssomebody stop me!”

Oops, I left your thought scanner on…Hey! Nice!

 

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Jim Burnett

This blog post reminds me of some lyrics from CCR. “You better learn it fast; you better learn it young, ’cause someday never comes”.

You can apply your points in just about everything. As for the money thing, there are tons of way around that. best thing to do is sit down and write a game plan.

Stephen Guise

Ah! I love CCR!

Those are good lyrics too.

I agree, there are a lot of ways around money, and I think the best one is to start as small as you can afford. Almost all businesses can be scaled down to very basic parts. Also, if your idea is just brilliant, you should be able to get some community funding from Kickstarter.

Trevor

This post is so spot on it’s scary. The simple fact is that so many of us never reach our dreams because we live a life of excuses.

Dreams and excuses mix about as well as oil and water.

And the ‘ol “this is just too hard” excuse has to be one of the biggest. You nailed it when you said the hard path is better. I know this one intimately. I took the path of least resistance for far too long. It never led me anywhere.

Nowhere worth going anyway.

It wasn’t until I took the hard path that I began to see real improvements in my life. Real change. Real results.

It may be bumpy and scary, but the hard path is the only path worth traveling.

Cheers!

Stephen Guise

I bet you know it well from your weightlifting. Strength training is a solid metaphor for life. Work hard now, get results later.

Making a legitimate excuse is beyond easy, because EVERY pursuit has upsides and downsides. Excuses are saying, “Oh, look at that. This won’t be perfect. I’ll do something else.”

Cheers!

Chim Aaron

Excellent piece. The easiest thing in the world is to make excuses for not taking action. But this is simply a game you play with yourself when you’re afraid of taking action. One of the basic principles I try to live by is that I have no excuses. If you take this approach, then you free your mind to begin to come up with solutions. You force yourself to find a way somehow.

Stephen Guise

That is a brilliant perspective to have. Excuses can only shut doors for us, so not accepting any of them forces creativity and persistence. I like it. Thanks Chim.

Inspiring Citizen Rafi

Hello Stephen,

This thought might have helped some people. However, no personal development blogger speaks about the 1000’s of people who have failed miserably by leaping before looking deep.

I myself, have read articles like this and have gone into deep hole..Later, I realized it is sensible risk taking that will help you..Can you sow the seeds at any time and reap the benefits..Like wise life is also the same and this thought probably might work for western culture where there is very little family responsibilities.

So I guess, you need to go a little deep into this topic before spreading the word out to the world.

I look forward for your valuable thoughts on how you can tackle this.

Stephen Guise

Sorry, I missed this comment the first time.

The point is not to leap before you look, it’s to move forward rather than sit back and wait. For some people, moving forward involves getting a safe and secure job and trying other things on the side. I don’t believe in reckless action, I believe in smart, but aggressive action.

Of course, some people do take big risks that pay off, but it’s called risk for good reason!

Look at this video. Noah from Appsumo explains how he limits entrepreneurial risk: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v47WEyeSMSA&feature=share&list=FLONmpDaRFJvIOAyYGIj5Ztw

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