Multi-tasking Is Killing Your Productivity

It seemed like a great fit for both sides. But deep into the second interview, she asked me the question, “how well do you do with multi-tasking?”  I believe it was my response and her ignorance on the matter that lost me the job offer.  I’ll get back to this.  For now, let’s look at this expert multi-tasker.

Multi-tasking is an ever-growing part of our culture.  Listening to music, watching TV, surfing the internet, working, eating, driving, playing games…*inhale*…chatting online, cooking, emailing, talking on the phone, reading, writing a paper, texting, writing a blog post, etc.  These are being combined in various and increasingly crazy combinations, as clearly seen in the video above.

Babies in the 21st century are born with cell phones. (unverified)

Multi-tasking Is Not That Bad…

…If you’re doing a maximum of two things at once.

recent French study found that when humans were given two tasks simultaneously, one task was handled by the right frontal lobe and the other by the left!  Amazing, right?  But once that number was increased to three tasks, one of the initial tasks “disappeared from the brain.”  Even worse, with three tasks, the participants slowed down and made many more mistakes.  Tackling three tasks at once is like running Windows Vista with 256 MB of RAM, except that we can’t add more frontal lobes.

Personally, I avoid multi-tasking whenever possible because deep focusing is superior.  In the same study, when there was only one task to accomplish, both sides of the brain worked together to accomplish the task.

I keep thinking about our frontal lobes as dual-core processors, but I’ve made too many computer-related analogies in the last two posts.

Multi-tasking does not come naturally…

  • Your fast lateral eye movement and peripheral vision give the impression that you can see many things at once, but your point of focus is always singular.
  • In conversation, we take turns talking rather than speaking and listening at the same time.
  • Nearly all sports use one ball.
  • What about those who juggle while riding a unicycle?  There it is!  Multi-tasking lives!  Not so fast.  The reason we’re amazed by this feat is because it is insanely difficult to do and takes serious time and practice to perfect.  I guarantee you that the performers who can do both at once can do each one much better individually.
Unicyclist juggling knives

I believe he is juggling knives on a unicycle. The face is justified.

Fun Fact: Jugglers use peripheral vision to juggle. They stare at a point in mid-air in front of them, focusing their vision on nothing and their mind on the peripheral environment (i.e. the objects they’re juggling).

We may feel productive multi-tasking, but anything more than two tasks is proven to be fertile soil for making mistakes and slowing down productivity.  Unlike the juggling unicycler, we cannot predict and train for the multi-tasking feats we attempt to conquer on a daily basis.

Multi-tasking is the enemy of Deep Existence.  It breeds shallow behavior by its very nature.  It is impossible to go deep into anything if you’re being interrupted by and engaging in other activities simultaneously.

Focus For Greater Impact

Imagine you’re holding a huge, dirty, and jagged rock.  You heave the rock with all your might into a lake in front of you with as high an arc as you can muster.  *kerrrrrrrplunk*  The rock impacts the water with deep sound and great force, triggering an explosion that forces the moist molecules into the air.  A massive current is pushed out from the spot of impact.

Rock splash impact

Now imagine you’re holding a smooth, oval stone.  You step forward and let it fly.

*tick*………………..*tick*……………..*tick*……..*tick*….*plink*

Only five?  Wow, that’s not very good.  The world record is 51 skips.

Stone SkippingThe stone skips along the water effortlessly.  At every location it touches, it gracefully lifts off and glides to the next destination.  Several tiny ripples can be seen gently flowing out from the touchdown locations as it makes its last skip and gently sinks down into the water.

That is the difference between deep focusing and shallow multi-tasking.  The heavy rock went underwater immediately with great impact, whereas the small stone skipped several times before it went under with little impact.  This 15 hour post might be less recognized than a trendy 5 minute news update on Justin Bieber’s new hair products, but it offers much greater value because of the time and focus I’ve put into it.

Focusing is not in style right now.  Do you ever hear your friends boast of their ability to focus on one thing? No, but people light up when someone recalls how they were shaving or putting on make-up while eating breakfast and studying for an exam on the drive to school.  Now we know that they’re just being inefficient (or dangerous in the case of driving).

About the interview… When she asked about my multi-tasking skills, I told her that I was adept at focusing and refocusing.  I wish I could have taken a picture of the interviewers’ reactions (I received two surprised, blank stares).  I told them I was skilled at exactly the opposite thing they were looking for.  Did it mean I couldn’t stop working to answer a phone call?  Absolutely not!  My futile attempts to explain fell on dogmatic multi-tasking-loving ears.

The Two Types of Productive Days

Multi-tasking, the sneaky miscreant, often steals the credit for productive days.  Think of your most productive days right now.  They likely fit one or both of these scenarios.

  1. You accomplish much on a single project – Your passion for the project fuels your efforts.  Deep focus on getting it finished allows you to work effectively.
  2. You accomplish many things – Taking out the trash, writing that report, getting groceries, calling the dentist to set up an appointment, having a great workout, doing laundry, and completely organizing your closet. What a productive day!  This is NOT multi-tasking. This kind of a day requires focus.  When you are focused, you get one task done and move to the next.  Time management experts know how to focus.

The Two Types Of Multi-tasking

  1. Distraction – you’re working on a project and you receive a phone call.  While on the phone and still working on that project, the mailman stops by to have you sign for a package.  Just like the study suggests, once the third task enters the picture, you’ll have to physically and mentally put aside one or both of the other two tasks.
  2. Purposeful – you listen to music while cleaning. You read a book and take notes. You brainstorm ideas for a business while you mow the lawn.  You remain focused because you’ve planned your multi-tasking session in a smart way that does not inhibit your productivity.

Purposeful double-tasking (two tasks at once) is fine and even beneficial.  Distraction-based multi-tasking is more common and the one that kills your productivity.  Unfortunately, the distraction often comes from within.  For example,

“I just remembered I need to call my Attorney but the office is closed.  Oh yeah, and I have to pick up cheese sometime soon.  I really need to get in better shape.”

You might have these internal distractions pop up as you’re working on a presentation.  They pull your focus away from the presentation and yet you’re probably not in a position where you can do anything about them.  You’re going to have to reprocess them again later.  This mental disorganization WILL happen unless the work is outsourced to something outside of the mind that you trust.

This work must be outsourced because our brains are literally incapable of storing as many things as we want them to store.  Let me prove that with sheer numbers…

I currently have 127 things that I need to keep in mind. Twenty of those are huge multiple-step projects that I’m currently undertaking or will soon.  In addition to those, I have 59 article ideas for Deep Existence. I know this because I have emptied my mind into a system that I can trust.  Now I can use my mind for things like enjoying life, thinking of creative ideas, and not worrying about forgetting anything.

Getting Things Done Tasks

You can see I have 127 to-dos (58 are actionable right now)

No mind on earth can effectively manage the average person’s mental workload.  This fact leads to inefficient use of our time, frustration from missing out on our dreams, and a constant (legitimate) feeling of being behind or forgetting something.  Our mind is not a great task management system when the number of tasks surpasses its capacity.

The Solution I Use

I was fortunate to stumble across this solution while in college a few years ago.  It is in the form of a book I’ve read (twice) that has changed my life.  The book is “Getting Things Done” by David Allen.  The picture above is my implementation of the system.

 

You cannot possibly remember the 200 things you want to, so stop trying.  Outsource that stressful grunt-work to an intuitive system and free your mind for greater things.  And remember to cut your multi-tasking to two tasks at most.

I hope you have a productive day.  🙂

Photo credit: Juggler by Ladonite | Rock splash by Zach Dischner | Rippled water by Canadian Starhawk

The Currency of Life – 28,726 Days


“Git ‘er dun” takes the sunshine out of my day every time I hear it.

But these clichés aren’t so bad.

“There is no time like the present”
“Carpe diem” (seize the day).

In Microsoft Windows, updates are often installed while the computer is resetting.  I expect a world-action lawsuit against Microsoft because they stole this concept from the human mind.  Sleep is our reset button.

You know how to spend 8,000 dollars, but do you know how to spend 28,726 days? Days are the non-negotiable currency of life. You can only spend one at a time unless you’re really good.

While we’re sleeping, our brain manages data collected from the previous day.  Memories are transferred from temporary storage to the “hard drive” of the brain. This is why it is recommended to study the night before a test.  Sleep is a rudimentary element of memory retention.

Rudimentary (adj) – consisting in first principles : fundamental. (word of the post)

I came across a fascinating German study published in February 2011. The results showed that the brain stores recent memories better in sleep than in wakefulness.  It found that the sleeping human’s brain prioritizes and consolidates the information from the previous day (just like important vs optional updates for Windows :-P). You can see the details of the study here.

Sleep is what makes the day the most important block of time. Just like in Windows – we are able to choose what updates our brain will be installing every night.    These updates will be related to:

  • What we did
  • What we learned
  • What we need to know for the next day

When you think of life in this way, it makes things simple.  If you want to be a brilliant scientist, you’ll need to surround yourself with science and over time you’ll have a textbook of information in your brain. The challenge is in living consciously at all times, because it is easy not to. A conscious person actively chooses to spend their daily time in activities that align with their long term intentions.

This concept does not merely apply to our mental facilities, but also to our physical bodies.  When I bench press three hundred an undisclosed, yet impressive amount of weight for my size, the muscle fibers in my chest and arms develop tiny tears (not as in crying – that happens when I tell you how much I bench).   The tears in the fiber are repaired and strengthened overnight.

28,726 days is 78.7 years – the current life expectancy in the USA.

Snow Leopards Are Great

This is what my ideal self looks like, so I have a lot to do today.

Mind and body both work together to form who we are (in the physical realm).  They both require sleep to solidify the progress we’ve made every day, and days are all we have.  Weeks, months, years, and decades are clusters of days.  You can accomplish a great deal in a day, but once you sleep, you’ve reset and it’s time to live another one.   Our lives are divided into 16 hour chunks, give or take a couple hours.

Look at your ideal future self.  This person represents everything you love and want to be.  Now ask him/her a question – “What are you doing with your time today?”  Listen carefully to the answer, find a way to do those things daily, and you’ll be that person…

starting today.

A Woman Rejected Me Today

Vulnerability is great!  Anyways…

I’m in a strange mood right now. I was just rejected as a Facebook friend by a woman I’ve never met. I’m surprised at the amount I’m being affected by such an objectively trivial event.  I’ve never met her.  It’s a Facebook friend rejection. What is wrong with me?

The Story

My parents went to Olive Garden and must have talked to their waitress. She goes to UNC Charlotte and so my parents mentioned me (I graduated from UNCC last year) and that I was moving back into the area and to look me up on Facebook. So she did and sent me a friend request along with a message explaining the situation.

I replied.

She defriended me afterwords.

I can only guess as to the reason for the defriending – but it happened. My response to her was not anything crazy, I assure you.  I wasn’t coming on to her or anything of the sort.  Still, I figure I must’ve said something that she didn’t like.

This is affecting me because I found her to be attractive. My thought afterwards: “It’s as if she is speaking on the behalf of every woman I’m attracted to out there, and I’ve been voted out as a candidate.” Devastating news, isn’t it?  See how my mind amplified that to an unbelievable size?

I am very intrigued by this irrational overreaction.  Honestly, I actually have a pretty high “batting average” with women I’ve pursued, but the number I have pursued is very small.  When you have a small number of attempts, the stakes are raised. This is a key reason I tend to amplify any hint of rejection in this area.

EDIT:  Considering the typical behavior of humans my age, I want clarify that “batting average” in no way refers to scoring sexually with a woman.  I am a virgin.  I simply meant reciprocal interest.

The Rejection King

I was talking to one of my best friends (a cousin of mine) the other night about women (men do this sometimes).  He said that there was this guy that decided on his own accord to be rejected by 75 women in one day.  He stood at the bottom of an escalator and just asked female after female out to dinner.

 

Fishing OBX

There are so many fish out there. There are more fish than women, but there are still a decent number of women out there (women not pictured).

His goal was to gain the courage to be able to ask a girl out that he liked.  After being served up some rejections (and probably positive responses too – to which I don’t know his response), there was a woman that came down the escalator that he really wouldn’t mind taking out to dinner, which made him very nervous.  He decided instead to just go ahead and call the girl he liked.  He had reached the equivalent difficulty on the escalator, so he figured why not just ask her out.

He experienced more rejection by women in that one day than I have in my lifetime.  It is much better to be in his shoes.  Raising the stakes is rarely a good thing unless they need to be raised (like in the 4th quarter).  If the stakes are high, then you will try to be so perfect that you’ll end up terrified of making a mistake.  When you’re trying to be perfect, you’re not trying to be yourself – which is not genuine and not good for relationships.

I have found that it really is best to lower the stakes. It looks something like this…

Ok, say I am attracted to a woman –  that doesn’t mean I have to be perfect around her.  I can simply talk to her without any ulterior motives of making her want to marry me.  This way I’ll get to know her and we can possibly develop a friendship – the valuable cornerstone for all personal relationships.

This is easier to say than to practice, of course.  When your stomach is full of butterflies and subsequently moves up into your throat while you’re trying to seem smooth, it gets difficult to concentrate on a conversation.  This reaction should ease as you realize that even the most attractive people are still flawed humans like the rest of us.

My next step of course is to actually meet women (I do want to find a life partner after all) so that I can be rejected in person instead of via Facebook.  Since I learned something through this experience, I wish I could “like” the defriending I received.  I didn’t see a like button for that.  Come on Facebook!

If you thought you could escape without a bigger life lesson, you were correct until I realized the life lesson.  This real life example speaks of the importance of making an effort to do currently uncomfortable things to get what you truly desire out of life.  The more times you experience failure in an area, the more you’re going to learn.  In addition, each new failure or rejection will have less sting than the last – like in the failure king example.

I think most people know this, but for me – I didn’t “get it” until I tried living it. I’m stepping outside of the safety lines by focusing on this blog instead of my “career.”

Imagine a fisherman who casts his line in the water once every 4 years.  He really wants a fish.  If he doesn’t catch a fish on that cast, his failure is amplified because he fishes so rarely.  He tries infrequently enough to scare him, but not frequently enough to teach him.  He isn’t willing to fail initially and so he fails incessantly.

The 4 Step Career Guide (Plus 23 Careers You’ve Never Considered)

Find Your Ideal Career In 4 Steps

I will list a concept and then give my personal example in order to cater to different learning styles.

1. Observe yourself – What are you drawn to?

  • Earlier this year I played chess often.  I would watch chess videos on youtube.  I spent hours upon hours every day absorbed in everything chess.
  • I took 9 credits one semester in college.  I had no job and I played video games all day long (honestly, it was a rough time in my life).  Video games test skill and strategic thinking.
  • In 2008 I began an obsession with investing.  I absorbed everything I could about stocks and options.  I analyzed companies on several different metrics to determine their value.
  • For the past few years, I’ve thought deeply about life and felt compelled to write about it.  I’ve always been drawn to personal development because it makes sense to me to always be improving in some way.

2. Listen to what you’re telling yourself

From above, I can see three primary elements that I seem to enjoy most in life (there are many others, but I have found myself drawn to these three the most)  – strategy, analyzing, and challenge. What elements can you extract from your favorite activities?  There are no wrong answers.  Just find out what you love.

Other random examples:  Adventure, socializing, researching, consuming, communicating, teaching, writing, creating, problem solving, observing nature (or others), being outside, being inside, persuading others, serving others, technology, learning, organizing, etc.

In blogging…

  • Strategy is huge – marketing, gaining traffic, etc.
  • Analyzing is everything – traffic stats, subscription changes, positive/negative responses to posts, etc.
  • The challenge in unending – once you’ve met a goal, you can pursue a higher one (lives changed, traffic, subscribers, etc.)

Blogging on a technical level is not too different from a game of chess, an RPG, or investing to me.  This is the ideal career for me if I can find a way to make money doing it.  Your career should include the elements that your personality naturally desires (Do What You Are can help you with finding that out).

3. Think Deeply About Your Talents and Limitations

It is not time for action quite yet.  All we’ve done is observe ourselves and extract out the key things we enjoy.  In my example I mentioned blogging as a career because I’ve already started doing it (I’ve gone through this process).  If you don’t yet know what to do, you need to consider what you’re good at and where you’re limited.

  • My first career love – football.  My second – basketball.  I would love to play either one professionally.  I’m very athletic, but I have a 135 pound frame… LIMITATION.
  • I think it would be a blast to make music for a living, but I’ve never put any time into it and my rhythm is questionable at best….LIMITATION.
  • My grammar, spelling, analytical ability, and math skills are above average.  My writing has improved dramatically since starting.  I could blog.  I could write a book.  This seems workable.

On some levels, I would rather play basketball or football for millions of dollars than blog (for 46 cents today).  But playing basketball doesn’t change lives – which is my goal with this blog.  Either way, I know that an NBA/NFL career is not realistic for me.  Be objective about what you cannot do – but do not let it be a source of negativity.  Focus on what you CAN do.

4. Recap and Final Step

  1. Look at some primary things that you find yourself drawn to. Video games, chess, investing.
  2. Extract out the common elements of those.  These are what you should look for in an occupation. Strategy, analyzing, challenge.
  3. Listen to what you’re telling yourself by comparing those elements to your current job or job path.  Are those needs being met now?  Will they eventually be met? Blogging: yes.  Lowe’s: no way.  Finance job: maybe, but not as fully as blogging.  Any other options?  I’m sure!
  4. Observe your skills, abilities, and limitations.  Focus on what you’re best at and what skills would give you the most pleasure in using. Analyzing, thinking, creating, being creative, and writing are some of my most valuable talents and they give me great pleasure when I use them.
  5. Find a job that meets all of the above criteria.  Look in an area of a personal interest. I enjoy analyzing, but I wouldn’t want to analyze skin tissue samples all day.  Blogging has the elements I enjoy, it requires many of my key skills, and I can blog about my personal interests (one of which is blogging), too!  This is why I work 80 hours a week and love it.

IMPORTANT: You may switch the order of 4 and 5.  Say you want to use 6 specific skills – a job might only use 3 of them and require some other skills that you also enjoy.  It may be best to look at jobs with your skill preferences in mind and see what is the best fit overall instead of going in with a rigid criteria.  However, you should be rigid about the most important skills you wish to utilize.

Dream world

That looks nice. Can you make money doing that?

Find Your Dream and Get Paid For It

There are careers in everything you can think of and some things you’ve never thought of.  Don’t immediately settle for the obvious career choice.  Weird careers are good because they tend to require some very interesting skills and cater to very unique “elements of interest” as discussed in step 1.  If you find yourself unimpressed with the typical jobs you see, consider these interesting career choices.

  1. Blogger (!) – There are many people who make a living by blogging.  I hope to add myself to the list.
  2. Ice Cream Taster – watch those calories!
  3. Inventor – Go ahead and create clothing that washes itself.
  4. Hot Air Balloon Tour Guide – The view must be nice.
  5. Snake Milker – Before you jump to conclusions, workers in this field extract the venom from the snake’s fangs.
  6. Laughter Therapist – Laughter is known to be a healthy activity, and when Seinfeld isn’t enough…
  7. Airboat Tour Guide in the Everglades – Not for everyone, but for some it might be a breath of hot, fresh air.
  8. Master sommelier– Wine experts that work in upscale restaurants, helping customers pair wine with food.
  9. Voice-over actor – Do you have a perfect deep gravel-voice like Alec Baldwin or Will Arnett?  Maybe Voice acting is for you!
  10. Beekeeper But won’t they sting you? Some people are passionate about this.  Bees are interesting and important insects.
  11. Palm Tree Trimmer – You won’t get paid much, but you get to work outside and look at the iconic palm tree all day.
  12. Traveling Carnival Jobs – Do you like to travel?  Do you enjoy Carnivals?  Another job where you’d have to love it because the money isn’t great.
  13. Roller Coaster Tester – You inspect the roller coasters, not ride them 😛
  14. Fire Scientist -Fascinated with fire?  This is your job! Plus, you get to blow things up.
  15. Delivering automobiles – My parents do this.  They drive pickup trucks all over the country and are paid for mileage.  If you like to drive but don’t want to drive a semi, then you may consider this.  Check with your local dealerships.
  16. Submarine Cook – pays up to $200,000 a year and you get to be in a freaking submarine!  Not for the claustrophobic.
  17. Banana Gasser – Nooo! These are not organic bananas! Ethylene is the gas used to ripen bananas quickly.
  18. Advertising author – Writing the promotional text on products.
  19. Ring Tone Recorder – These people create catchy ring tones.
  20. Brewmaster The Institute of Brewing and Distilling teaches you to become a brewer.
  21. Toy Creator – You can earn over $50,000 a year making toys.  Sounds like fun, right?
  22. Bed & Breakfast Owner – If you love hospitality, why not make beds and cook breakfast for a living?
  23. Pearl Diver – A dangerous job that can pay around $1,000 per day.

There you have it! 23 awesome career options, some of which I’m sure you’ve never heard of!

It took a lot of hard “play” to write this.  🙂

Kill The Invisible Critic – Be Prolific

Do you ever find yourself wanting to write about or do something controversial, risky,or outside of the norm? If you’re like me, the answer “all the time” is in red on the screen in front of you.

If you’re still like me, when this risky idea appears, you’ll often hesitate to pull the trigger on it and it eventually subsides. And why? The Invisible Critic is to blame!

We hesitate because The Invisible Critic is watching us. It sees you when you’re sleeping, it knows when you’re awake (™ Santa).  It watches especially closely when you’re about to step outside of those neat lines the world has drawn for you to play inside of.

Invisible man

The Invisible Critic. You're not supposed to be able to see it, but I wanted to add a picture. Shoot.

Ladies and Gentleman – The Invisible Critic

So who is this gender-neutral villain anyways? The Invisible Critic is a projection we create when we believe that “others” would think something negative about us or our idea if we actually did it. What if I fail and so-and-so finds out? What if she judges me for it? What if I offend somebody?

The critic creates a resistance to our idea before there is an actual resistance to it.  This is not to be confused with our own natural internal challenges to an idea. Internal challenges are based on the merit of the idea and not external worries.

This resistance is fake. Fabricated. False. Bogus. Phoney. Invisible. (did you get chills on that last one? Me neither. Darn.)

The Invisible Critic Show

Host: Hi, I’m your host and welcome to the show. Today’s guest is yet another Invisible Critic. Hello and welcome. How did you get your name, TIC? What brings you to the area?

TIC: My name comes from the fact that I criticize people, but I don’t exist. I’m here to intimidate the audience and I’m good at my job.

Host: Wow. What exactly do you mean? How do you intimidate people?

TIC: The people give me power. They create me because they’re worried about others’ opinion of their choices. I leverage that to intimidate them into not following through with some great ideas for their life. I often sound like a parent, relative, or friend and they worry about my reaction to their idea if implemented. I’m not actually those people – I’m just a representation of them in their mind, but I can do some serious damage, man!

Host: Wow, you are fascinatingly evil.

TIC: Yep.

Host: What about something like this idea? Where a blogger creates a fictitious character to try and make something more interesting at the risk of being laughed at, ridiculed, or doomed to internet obscurity? You’d pose as a specific person or general societal opinion in my mind and try to make me doubt this wonderful idea?

TIC: Yeeeeah man, that’s it. Hey, where is your invisible critic by the way?

Host: I’m sure he’ll be here soon.

TIC: You must not have any decent ideas, haha!

Host: Nice try, but you’re not my Invisible Critic. I don’t know whose invisible critic you are, but thank you for letting me interview you and *cough* I hope your owner destroys you soon. All you guys do is hold people back from reaching their potential. You stifle their creativity and make them think they shouldn’t try new things or risk failing.

TIC: True. So?

Host: So…why should we be scared of what others think if we’re doing what we honestly think is best for our lives? This could be a guy taking up yoga or ballet, a girl wanting to play professional football, or someone dropping out of school. All of these people might have “TICs” telling them not to pursue these things because of public perception.

If real people actually have concerns about us, they can voice them to us in real life. If they decide to cowardly whisper and talk behind our backs, then we shouldn’t associate with them anyways. Invisible Critics should be eliminated. It isn’t our job to control what others think about us, but to live the best lives we know how to.

TIC: But the unemployment rate is high and this is the only job I’m qualified for!

Host: I know of a guy who once created an Invisible Critic that criticized his desire to purchase a premium wordpress theme to improve his blog. His Invisible Critic told him that he couldn’t afford it, and that it was a waste of money because his blog would probably never amount to anything worthwhile. The Invisible Critic multiplied and took on the form of all the people that he figured might think that, and it got to him.

Underneath the doubt instilled by TICs (The Invisible Critics), he still believed in himself and his blog ideas and that he could afford to invest in the blog despite his financial struggles. He realized that The Invisible Critic was not a humanoid of constructive criticism, but one that used fear to control the actions of people everywhere. He decided not to worry about TIC anymore and began to live his life the best he knew how in a way that aligned with his goals and dreams.

TIC: You know our secret weapon is fear?

Host: Oh yeah, and I’m spreading the word, so you’d better run!

TIC: That man from the story. That was you, wasn’t it?

Host: You got it, buddy.

TIC: *runs away*

I tried to get his autograph, but sometimes Invisible Critics will run away as fast as they appear. I hope that one meets his maker. Could it be yours? If so, I think you should have a little chat with it and let it know who is boss of your life and who is NOT. Don’t let worry and fear of what the world thinks prevent you from making the right decisions and pursuing your dreams. Unconventional methods to success are abundant, so don’t be afraid to explore them!

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to purchase that premium wordpress theme for my blog. I also quit my job on the first day despite being unemployed since I graduated with a Finance degree in July 2010. Without a job, I don’t have money for rent this month and I’m moving back in with my parents. Tomorrow, I’ll be doing yoga because it helps my back and general health. There is only one problem, I can’t seem to find My Invisible Critic anymore. It would have so much to say about these choices. Oh that’s right, we went our separate ways and I’m happier now. 😀

Write that controversial blog post, quit your job and move to Africa, take steps to start that business that you’ve always wanted to, or do whatever it is that you honestly think is best (or a smart risk). It is a great idea to seek and consider wise counsel from people that you trust, but don’t let your Invisible Critic scare you out of a good idea or decision before you really consider it. Keep in mind that conventional wisdom isn’t always the right choice for every person in every situation.

Be your own person.  Take ownership of your life.