To Be Happier, Embrace a Life of Imbalance

Conventional wisdom tells us that balance is key to happiness. I object.

Trying to live a “balanced life” sounds good, but I speak self-help BS, so let me translate: “live a balanced life” really means “frantically try to do everything.”

Ironically, our desire for balance is a driver of chaos. Am I really “supposed” to have a thriving business, excellent relationships and romantic prospects, great physical and mental health, adventurous travel plans, once-per-week volunteering, and responsible money management and investments, PLUS a nicely trimmed beard? Is that the life I need to be happy?

That’s just unreasonable when you add in the beard. That takes like… three minutes!

Guys, I don’t even have children. I can’t imagine adding “raise a human being” to my already-overwhelming list of things I “should” have for a balanced life. Many people have multiple children! Whew. How can it be done?

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Are you Making This Time Management Mistake?

One night, I was very tired because I had exercised earlier for two hours. It was 10:30 pm and I hadn’t done much work. Figuring that I would go to bed at about 12:30 am, I resigned to spend the rest of the night relaxing. All two hours of it.

Some part of me felt uncomfortable with that decision, and now I know why. I was looking at my available time too broadly. I had two hours before bedtime, and I thought it made most sense to relax since I was tired. But here’s the kicker: I can divide up that two hours however I please!

We tend to schedule our lives by the hour or half hour. This is a natural result of wanting to be on the same page as the rest of society (and practicing it until it’s routine), but it has an unintended and wasteful consequence.Read More

How Mini Habits Can Make Your Dreams Come True

A mini habit is a very small behavior that you force yourself do every day.

My second book, How to Be an Imperfectionist, discusses the soul of the Mini Habits ideology—accept imperfect progress in any amount and prioritize forward movement. I was shocked when a reader said this in a review,

“If you want to be mediocre and be happy about it, get this book.”

Mediocre? Huh? Something got lost in translation. Mediocrity is exactly what my books fight against! How did this misunderstanding happen?

How Real Life Kills Dreams

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3 Perspectives That Make for a Good Life

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I believe in two things: strategies and perspectives. This article is about the latter.

How is it that you can place two people in similar circumstances, and one is miserable as the other is happy? Perspective.

These three foundational perspectives are easy to mix up, so pay close attention to the nuances between them. Together, these will create a healthy appetite for growth and lasting satisfaction in the journey. That’s a good life!

 

1. Accept where you are now (not where you hope to be). Greatness always begins from where you are, even if it’s dark.

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The Snowball Effect Rules the World

When David Loffert was 31, his life trajectory was impressive.

“I had published/presented 54 medical papers, published 6 peer reviewed medical papers, was contributing author on one book, owned and operated my own consulting company in respiratory medicine, developed a patent for respiratory devices, and was progressing successfully in my Ph.D.”

~ David Loffert

That year, David had a bout with migraine headaches and went to see a doctor about it. Over the next 9-10 years of his life, things went horribly wrong. Loffert writes,

“Shunned from my profession, disenchanted from my family and friends, and homeless, I fell into a deep depression. It was at this time that I wrote a suicide note and attempted to commit suicide. Over the next nine years I attempted suicide one more time, had 35 toxic overdoses, and 45 seizures. All of which brought me close to death each time.” (source)

What went wrong?

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