All Posts by Stephen Guise

Events Don’t Make Winners


What makes a winner a winner? (photo by ronWLS)

It’s hard not to see it the wrong way.

Sports teams hoist the trophy after they win the big game, and not a moment sooner. Only one team is named champion, even if the teams are similarly skilled and equally deserving of victory. This distorts our view of success.

The losing team sulks because they lost, but they may still be winners.

We feel validated by winning, but winners are made well before they win. In other words, victory is nice, but it doesn’t make someone a winner. Victory is something that happens to someone who has already won.
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Sink Your Sunk Costs (or Be Sunk)


I recently visited San Antonio, TX to see if I wanted to live there. It looked just about perfect on paper.

I paid for roundtrip airfare, car rental, and a hotel for several days. Shortly after arriving, I realized that San Antonio has somewhat high population density and a road system that resembled a pile of worms. I like simplicity and dislike chaos, so I knew it was not for me. Since I had some more time, I visited a smaller city nearby called New Braunfels.

I liked New Braunfels. It was simpler, less crowded, and had some of the amenities I look for. I began telling some people that I would likely move there. It would have been a mistake if I did.


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Never Live Like You’re Behind


“Coach K.” of Duke University (Photo by SportsAngle)

Is there an area in which you feel like you’re “behind” where you should be?

Do you feel behind in friends, money, respect, free time, happiness, productivity, fitness, health, organization, relationships, or success in general? If an area comes to mind, think about it as you read through this post.

Duke Was Behind, and Then This Happened

Duke University’s basketball team was losing by 22 points in their Final Four basketball game against Maryland in 2001. [Continue Reading…]

How to Live Like a Fox


That is one foxy fox. (photo by peggycadigan)

Foxes are cool. They’d be even cooler if they were “foxi” in plural. Here’s how to live like a fox.

Use Your Available Tools Like the Fox Uses Its Tail

The fox tail — What? Yes, I know it’s cute. Would I snuggle with a fox? No, I would not snuggle with a wild animal.

Did you know that the fox’s furry appendage does more than just attract vixens and snuggle-prone humans? Fox tails are like a swiss army knife. [Continue Reading…]